So, I've taken up humor as one of my new hobbies. All other emotions and states of mind are vacant. For the past two days I've heard about at least seven relationships ending, a few of those were marriages. I do live in a very small town, word gets around and the rule of six is more like the rule of twelve here.
Today I had been discussing momentary happiness with my good friend. Actually we were discussing lesbians, mesh shorts and wearing our tits well. somehow we got on the subject of momentary happiness. Don't try to draw a connection of any kind because there isn't one. I am convinced this is due to the attention deficit/devastation disorder we were born with. Eh, enough of me making excuses for people who need help, let's get to the point--
My friend asked me why people pretend to be happy. I replied with, "because they want to be and they want others to think they are". The problem isn't wanting to be happy or faking happiness, the problem is that there are a lot of unhealthy people in the world. We don't know someone is unhealthy when we first meet them so naturally we fall in love with the qualities we wanted to see because they are a part of the whole package-- you know, that package sincerely ME or YOU created. With that being said, we probably think we are in love, right? Yes, onto the mushy shit and disregard the other shit that is detrimental to us. Sound about right? If you've managed to bypass this part of relationship doom, good for you!
With almost everything that seems too good to be true, there are loop holes or minefields, if you must. When we are in love we make excuses for those unhealthy behaviors that our significant other portrays and before we know it we have fallen madly in love with the idea (aka the package) rather than the actual person. We then fall into the, "he was never like this before I married him or she wasn't always such a tramp" well, he was and she was, sorry folks.
There are people amongst us that do not fall in love and get married, they fall in love with a moment, that moment where for a second they saw something else, caught a glimpse of that perfect life in their head, they saw potential which caused them to make promises, to commit and/or get married.
Onto phase two: the extravagant wedding and honeymoon. This phase isnt just for suckers, only children or daddy's little girl. It is also for people who are obsessed with making sure their guests know how happy and in love they are and maybe they really are, who am i to say otherwise? However, too often than not, when we aren't 100 percent sure of something, we tend to find a way to do, what? Compensate, compensate, compensate!
True love isn't about any of that (not that i would know) but what i do know is, it isn't just one specific moment. True love is in every moment of every day, it doesn't leave any room for compensation. You wont need that big, expensive fluff to make people believe you're something you're not. When Youre truly in love, you'll get married anywhere even if it is just the two of you naked in a blistering hot desert with a priest in a bright orange speedo, you'll love every minute of it. You'll kiss, make love and wake up the next morning to real life. But at least you didn't compensate.
-hb
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